another thing for the whole country to get pissy about, not just homosexual marriages…homosexual families. gay dudes adoptin’ youngin’s and lesbians goin’ out and gettin’ all sorts of inseminated & preggers. oh noes!
i love how the US government — possibly one of the most corrupt, immoral, disfunctional entities EVER — has taken it upon itself to determine what is “right” and “moral” for the rest of the country and the world. how a predominately white, heterosexual, middle-aged, christian, male group of people could ever possibly come up with non-biased, objective, constructive decisions regarding the welfare of anything else except their big fat bank accounts i’ll never know. because it has NEVER HAPPENED!
additionally, i think the puritan roots of america’s anglo-saxon ‘majority’ has done far greater hurt than good over the duration of this nation’s history. while it’s true that in most places you will see merely a handful of the pinkish-white caucasian faces peering out at you in the US, they are still the majority. they are repressed, self-righteous, self-indulgent, and have a serious superiority complex. differences are something to be feared, reviled, threatened and done away with. it is a sad state of affairs.
but while i digress (and i do), i must point out that despite how horribly repressed the american culture is we do have our dirty underbellies of filth, perversion and corruption. the most twisted views usually revolve around sexuality. men love girl-on-girl porn, respected officials of society love to plow little children, you can find almost any and every depravity and sick perversion and kink out there along with someone who thinks it’s the bees knees. but nobody talks about it, and nobody likes when it’s brought up. when they might be caught. so…persecution. condemnation. misunderstanding.
don’t get me wrong, i don’t think there’s anything sick or perverse or condemnable about homosexual relationships. that’s not my call and it’s none of my business…but i do realize the state of mind that leads to these damning accusations and hostile conflicts surrounding something that should be — for all intents & purposes — a private, intimate situation.
who or what you fuck — unless it’s children — should be no one’s business but your own & the person/place/thing you’re fucking. seriously. and DEFINITELY it should not be a whole fucking government’s business.
furthermore, who or what you fuck has no bearing whatsoever on your ability to raise & provide for children — unless you’re fucking children and then you probably shouldn’t be allowed to keep your own.
along with an exceptionally puritan background & moral leaning, the major scope of the american public has an exceptionally narrow view of what a “family” is.
“Just because you can conceive a child outside a one-woman, one-man marriage doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. Love can’t replace a mother and a father.”
– Carrie Gordon Earll, a policy analyst for the conservative Christian ministry Focus on the Family, responding to the news of Vice Presidential daughter and lezbot Mary Cheney’s pregnancy
that right there really fucking gets me: “Love can’t replace a mother and a father”. what.the.fuck?!?!?!
are they discounting all the single-parent families out there? the mother or father who scrapes and sacrifices and gives everything for their child out of nothing but pure love (and maybe guilt), will they never be “good enough” because they don’t have another parent available for their child (another parent of the opposite sex, mind you)? what about grandparents raising children? aunts or uncles of the recently orphaned? older siblings taking care of the younger when parents pass? what of all these combinations of single parent, same sex, multiple-relative families that don’t fit into the american standard nuclear family picture?
do children really need a mother and father to grow up right? is that the only way?
also, this discounting of the importance of love in a child’s (or anyone’s) life…what the hell?
- scenario a: a mother, a father, a child. mother & father wed too young, most likely because of the child, so they don’t really love eachother and they most likely resent the child. maybe the mother cheats, or the father beats her. maybe the father is an alcoholic and the mother abuses the child. or maybe nothing happens except in a household completely devoid of love & happiness the child grows up cold, distrusting and emotionally unstable. but he/she had a mother and a father, right? and that’s all that it takes.
- scenario b: a single father, a child. the father works hard, devotes himself to his child and sacrifices to make sure they have a decent life. there is love and happiness and some very valuable lessons about sacrifice and hard work and the child might be a bit wanting but will grow up relatively stable, and loved. but it won’t matter because there wasn’t a mother. so the kid is damaged, right?
- scenario c: mother, father, child, step-parent. maybe you take scenario a and one of the parents can’t take it anymore and there is divorce. and one of the parents remarries. let’s say in this case it’s the mother. so it’s one mother, two “fathers’. maybe things weren’t so hostile and they actually care about the kid. only the step father loves the kid too, maybe…over time. people fear the aspect of “two daddies” and all the homosexuality that could imbue the nation’s youth with. but what if instead of two people who either do or do not love eachother or their children you have three people who all genuinely care for their kid. is that wrong?
- scenario d: same sex parents & a child. maybe it’s two guys and they adopt (is that even allowed, for real?) or it’s two women and they inseminate, adopt, etc. but they do it because they love eachother so much and want children (gag). so they love eachother and they love their child and raise it the best they can. and the child grows up a little more open minded with a lot of love. but without a mother/father so that’s bad. and wrong. and evil. right?
there’s about a million more scenarios, and they play out a million more different ways. but the government, the right-wing conservatives, the christian fanatics…none of them can see it. none of them want to. and what’s worse, they’re discounting the importance of a loving stable environment for children, for a family. they don’t even care anymore. it’s just: man, woman, children, the end. nothing in-between, no grey area, no flexibility. they can’t see the forest for the trees.
and they’re wrong…they’re so very wrong.
honestly, who could a government that can’t even take care of its own nation ever presume to tell its people how to take care of their children? what the fuck kind of presumptuous arrogance is that? especially when you think of how many people out there end up saddled with children they don’t want, don’t love, don’t care about vs. how many same-sex couples out there genuinely want children and will love and care for them; you realize that the sanctity of “family” is not the issue, nor is the welfare of the children…it’s that some people can’t wrap their miniscule little tard-minds around the idea of diffferent sexuality, different types of love… of
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furthermore, i am never fucking having children.
fuck.that.hard.
(i think this is apt)
- 3x Thursday: Parents
- Do you get along with both of your parents? Have you always/always not? Why/how?
oh hell no. i love my daddy but the mother is evil. she has always been evil. she always will be evil. - Is there one parent you connect with more than the other? If so, how so?
yup, my daddy. he’s not manipulative & controlling or a bitch. he was a bit strict when i was growing up, but oh well, that probably kept me out of trouble. most importantly, he’s honest with me, that’s a big deal. - Do you see your parents often? How often? Why/why not?
not really. i talk to my daddy every week, sometimes a few times a week, but they’re 2,000 miles away, so you know. plane fare is expensive. - Bonus Question: Do you think parents in general are crazy becuase us kids made them that way? Do you think you kinda *have* to be insane (in that kooky parent sort of way) to be a parent?
i think that most parents out there are fucking retarded morons that should never have sullied the gene pool with their idiocy. and yes, you do have to be kind of stupid/insane to want to spawn and have a lifelong parasite you’ll be responsible for. then again, there are also some seriously insane/fucked up kids that are just abortions that should have been. american parents are far too lazy and unreliable these days.
